Monday, July 14, 2008

STRESS AND HOW

Well, you have probably all heard by now, but the hospital has bought our house( eminent domain) so we now have to find a new place to live. This is NOT something I need right now. Sat. we looked at a few places. There was one large modular home that was a one story rambler that had 3 bedrooms, two baths and allowed us to have pets. I liked the look of it in the photos and the price was good. There was only one huge disadvantage to it, it was in a neighborhood called "Leisure Village". When we got there we discovered that "Leisure Village" was a trailer park. No deal, we didn't even get out to look at it. This particular house was the largest of all the ones we looked at, and definitely not a mobile home. It was brand new also. But as I say, "trailer park ". We looked at some town homes also. The first one was locked, but the Realtor the was helping us had some kind of skeleton key that he retrieved from a box. As he opened the door he said "Now I know why there are so many "For Sale" signs in this complex" there were 32 carpeted stairs to climb before you got to the house. That was a no go. There is no way that DH can climb 32 stairs, or the dog, an it isn't all that easy for me either. The nest house was a 2car garage 3bedroom 1 bath room free standing house. It didn't have a fenced yard and the one bathroom thing was a definite no go. DH and I have so many conflicts with the bathroom. He seems to always have to use it just when I am trying to get ready for work, especially if I am running late. I am almost always late for church. Its at 1:00 and I still am late. I told him today, for example, that I would need it at noon so to please plan the use of it accordingly. At 12:00 on the dot he got up and went into the bathroom and didn't come out for a half hour. I liked the last house we visited. It was a 2 story town house with 3 bed rooms and 21/2 bathrooms. It even had a fireplace, I loved it, but unfortunately Raymond could not get up the stairs. He did get up the stairs and down again from the inside, but the outside stairs were without railing and quite steep even though there were only 2 stairs. I thought DH was going to have a heart attack before he got off of those 2 outdoor steps. He even screamed in fear. That was the first time I have ever heard him manifest that much emotion since I have known him. Our Realtor said we could put in a wheel chair ramp (he isn't in one but they are always a good idea in my opinion).We could also get a chair that fits on the stair rail an you can sit in it and push a button and will take you up the stairs or down them. I think I would like that too,seeing that my knees are creaky also. It looks like we will have to keep looking. We can stay here for at least a year so we will be in a home until we find a new home that will suit us. Of course mom has got her self involved in looking for a home in Afton, But I told her that I didn't want to come live there. at least not now. Then other members got involved, I suspect that mom was involved in that also. Bless her heart she means well, but I am approaching 60 years old. I think I can do something on my own now. Please don't tell her what I have just written, I don't want to upset or insult her, but I do wish that she would recognize that I am a grown up now. I appreciate everyone who has offered advice and help, but we have a Realtor who is helping use find a a house and help with the money situation, so that we can get a nice place to live in and it will be ours until w die, that is unless some other entity pulls another "eminent domain" on us where we finally settle in. This area is growing so fast that I don't know if we can find somewhere to live that won't be in danger of being in the way of progress at some future time.